Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Spontaneity

Last night was a good night.

My husband is a planner and I really love that about him. We balance each other out pretty well. What I forget, he remembers; what he forgets, I usually remember. Although, since I like to be honest, I'll tell you that it's almost always me doing the forgetting and him doing the reminding. But, as I said, his need for organization and planning and "doing things right away" in general have worked very well for us. He has a Treo that he writes everything in...grocery lists, instructions from my doctor's visits, books people recommend, general "to dos" around the house, reminders to send emails to certain people. Really, I don't know how our little family would function without D's list-making. However, sometimes it gets a little frustrating when D needs to ask me 10 questions before we go out on a date night. In his defense, he's just trying to make sure I get what I want, but, being a woman, sometimes I just want him to guess! :) Spontaneity is something that requires stretching outside his comfort zone, but hey, if that's the only thing he might be a little lacking on, I'll take it!

I guess lately I've been more vocal in my need for a little spontaneity in our relationship...probably to the point where if D hears the word "spontaneous" again he'll go running and screaming in the other direction.

Which leads me to, once again, say that last night was a good night. Right before I left work, my wonderful husband called me and told me not to make dinner when I got home. I asked him why not and he said "I'm trying to be more spontaneous". When he got home from work, he was ready to go. When I asked him where he was taking me, he said "I was thinking of that Chinese place that we haven't been to". I have been craving Chinese food, and here he was guessing that I wanted to eat Chinese! So, we ate at this place down the hill called Stir. It was actually pretty good! We both agreed that we'll be going back there often. THe prices were great and the atmosphere was really nice. D was able to order Thai food and I ordered my Chinese dish. They also served sushi which made me think that my dad would enjoy Stir, too.

After dinner we went to Target for some random items. The company I work for is adopting a family for the holidays so I wanted to pick up some things for the kids. The family is a single mother with 5 children ranging in age from 2 to 12 years old. All they asked for is tennis shoes, but of course we will provide them with more than that. I have heard one person complain about giving to a family where the parent "obviously" keeps popping out kids without being able to provide financially for them. This person outright said that she judged this family from the get-go and was hesitant to donate. I told her that we are doing this for the kids and, since the kids can't help how many siblings they have, they shouldn't be judged. I'm sad that some people feel this way. Wouldn't it be fun to be a fly on the wall when those kids receive the gifts?

There's a new shopping center by us with a new movie theater and outdoor area and it's really nice. The Target is new as well as a few other chain retailers who have opened their doors in the last 6 months or so. There's a Ross over there, too. I'm not usually a Ross shopper, but I figured since it's new it probably was pretty clean and organized. WRONG. I don't think it matters how new a Ross store is, they will always be completely trashed. I won't go in to why I think that's the case, but I will say I'm sorry for the Ross employees...seems like a lot of work.

Christmas decorating and everything involved with that is going slowly this year. After we got home last night I was exhausted. I just wanted to go to bed, so I did. I have probably 25 Christmas cards ready to be mailed - some missing addresses that I need to look up - and at least 30 more cards to write. It's those cards as well as the 8+ boxes of Christmas decorations that make me wish I was Mary Poppins and could just snap my fingers and have the decorations magicially adorn themselves around the room. I wouldn't even bother this year if it weren't for a Christmas party we are having at our house this weekend for some of our close friends.

I think I've rambled enough. Have a happy Wednesday!

5 comments commented:

Mainly a midwife said...

That's awesome that your hubby would plan a date night!

Glamorous Life of a House Wife said...

Sounds like a fun night out on the town! We had chinese last night, too!

My home - My life said...

Sounds like a really fun night!

We adopt a family here at work too and I just looked at the list today of who is participating and who is not and I was just shocked at the people who I know CAN help these people out but have chosen not to. It is very frustrating for me but oh well, I can only do my part!

Liz said...

Sounds like a fabulous night! And me too,,, NO Ross. I cannot stand those stores, digging through bins. Ugh.

3 Bay B Chicks said...

What a wonderful treat from your husband. There is nothing quite like reconnecting with the man in your life, is there?

I completely sympathesize with your Christmas card plight. Mine are sitting next to me as I type this. I have stamps, labels, cards, you name it. Am I inspired to send them? Let's just say, not exactly.

Hopefully you will have better luck than me.

-Francesca